Thursday reflections on forgetting what we know, the space between sessions, and why I finally said yes.

In 2008, a client said something I never forgot.

He was in a turbulent relationship with his partner. They’d been coming to see me together, working through patterns that had calcified over years. And one day, while she stepped out to use the bathroom, he leaned forward and said:

“You know, I get it. I get it all when I’m here. But then I forget. I forget why and how and what not to do. And if I could just text you between appointments and ask for reminders… that would be brilliant.”

I didn’t offer it then. I wasn’t ready. My life was full in ways that didn’t leave room for that kind of availability. I was moving, marrying, and then the losses came one after another. My sister, my mother. My son. I could show up for sessions. Thirty minutes, forty-five, an hour. But unlimited access? That took years before I was ready to hold.

Still… I never forgot what he said. He named something true about how insight actually works.

The forgetting is real

After 35 years and over 50,000 sessions, I know that often people struggle because they forget their worth, they forget their boundaries, they even forget their right to take up space. And for sure, they even forget the pattern we just identified last week. They walk back into the situation that’s been activating them for decades, and somehow, everything they understood the last time we communicated evaporates.

It’s never a failure of intelligence. It’s being human. The nervous system has its own memory, and it’s stronger than cognitive understanding. The old patterns have grooves worn deep. And life doesn’t wait for your next scheduled appointment to test what you’ve learned.

That’s what he was asking for, really. He didn’t need more sessions as much as someone who could help him remember what he already knew, in the moments when he was most likely to forget.

What Unlimited actually is

Ten years after that conversation, I finally started offering Unlimited. At first, it was quietly, to a few clients who needed something different than scheduled sessions could provide.

And then it took on a life of its own.

And over the years, I discovered that people don’t just want to text quick questions. They want to write. They’ll send emails that read like reflective journaling, getting their thoughts down, trying to make sense of what just happened, and asking the questions that are swirling: Why do I feel this way? What can I do about it? What does this mean?

And then they press send.

Within the hour, I’ve returned a response, and it’s never a quick “hang in there.” It’s a real response that goes through their email line by line, answering questions, clarifying, amplifying, connecting dots, giving perspective. It’s highly personal and completely unique to them and their patterns and their history and where they are right now.

A client told me recently, “You have this way of going deep into my story, like really deep, without making it weird or clinical. You’re not afraid of the hard parts, but you don’t get lost in them either. You’re steady. You see patterns I couldn’t see on my own, and you say them in a way I can actually use. It feels like you’re working with both my heart and my mind at the same time. And there’s no preachy spiritual stuff attached to it.”  

And if I’m being honest about my results, what clients tell me, over and over, is that I nail it. They use that word a lot. What they mean is, I put words to the thing they couldn’t quite articulate, and connect pieces of their life puzzle (past and present and future) that they couldn’t see from inside the swirl.

Why this works

There’s something about having someone available when the moment is actually happening. It changes how you move through difficulty.

You don’t have to hold it alone until Thursday at 3pm. You don’t have to try to reconstruct what happened four days later when the emotional charge has faded, and you can’t quite remember why it mattered so much. You don’t have to forget.

You write it out while it’s alive. You send it to someone who knows your patterns, your history, and your soul’s curriculum. And you get back a response that helps you see clearly, right when you need to see clearly.

That’s not therapy in the traditional sense, I know. That’s why I call it companionship. It’s having a wise companion who happens to have 35 years of transpersonal psychology training and can meet you exactly where you are, without needing you to catch them up on the backstory.

December, specifically

Unlimited is always available by the week, month, or season, but I also adapted it for December because this month has a way of activating everything from nostalgia to grief, to family patterns, the pressure to perform joy, the complexity of being accomplished, and still finding it hard.

December doesn’t wait for scheduled appointments. It surfaces things at 10pm on a Tuesday. It triggers you in the parking lot before the gathering. It brings up the people who aren’t here anymore right when you’re supposed to be festive.

And I thought, what if people had companionship through this specific season? Not crisis intervention, but someone who could help them stay conscious through the complexity instead of white-knuckling it alone.

I have two spots remaining before it starts Monday. December 1st through January 4th. Unlimited email and text. Real-time companionship through whatever this month brings.

If you’ve ever had that experience my client described as getting it, really getting it, and then forgetting the moment you need it most, this might be what your December is asking for.

I have deep respect for everyone walking through this upcoming  season,

Jonni

PS: If you want the full details, email me jonni@drjonni.com and I’ll shoot them right over. Or if your body just said yes and you’re ready to begin, tell me that too. Either way, I’m here.